Why I don't share posts that make fun of people's bodies on my facebook page

Another one of those male boudoir sessions is floating around the internet again (you might have seen it - it's the nice looking guy with pumpkins?). I just feel like I need to put this out there, because each time one of these posts goes viral, the link gets messaged to me, posted to my wall, posted in my facebook group The Empowerment Studio, and all over the place. 

And I KNOW that people are seeing boudoir and thinking, "Kinzie!" Which, obviously I'm down with that! You know I love me some gorgeous boudoir photos. (And you make me feel so loved when you think of me!)

But what I don't love is these supposedly hilarious photo shoots of men who are actually BEAUTIFUL people, but the session makes fun of both: A) men's bodies and B) the genre of boudoir. What I'd like to know is, why can't men actually be beautiful? Why can't we celebrate their bodies as well? Why do we have to see the body of a man who is plus size, or who is maybe not super comfortable in his body, and only laugh at it? Can't we throw them some love as well? Can't we photograph them in a way that feels sexy, that is empowering? Can't we share their photos because they are beautiful people, not because we want to laugh at them? 

And I should say: I am not personally mad at a single person who has shared these posts with me in the past! I truly love each and every one of you, and the fact that you take time out of your day to think of me, and to share something with me -- that means so much. But I also don't think it's fair to the beautiful bodies out there that these posts are making fun of, to not speak up and say something. So please don't take this as a personal attack, if you've shared these posts with me in the past. I promise I still love you!! Let's just spam each other with Harry Potter memes and videos of cats doing weird things.

This is making me feel like I need to photograph men again (I've photographed some guys in the past, but it's been a while!) so that I can truly celebrate the male form as well. And I'm not just talking about only photographing muscular, chiseled men -- though they are gorgeous too. No, I want to photograph every single body, and help them see that they are beautiful. 

PS: if you're looking for a "dudeoir" shoot that I can get down with -- I'd say this one does a very nice job of celebrating the male body, and you really can't go wrong with a little Harry Potter boudoir! I NEVER mind when that one pops up in my inbox. ;) 

PPS: If you REALLY want to deep dive into some male portraiture magic, check out my buddy Kevin Lowery down in Atlanta who photographs men in the most beautiful way. So intimate and personal and stunning. You're welcome. 

Behind the Scenes of a Boudoir Shoot || KCMO Boudoir Photographer

I love sharing the gorgeous, empowered images with you all from my boudoir shoots - what could be sexier and more powerful than a lady who knows herself and is owning the moment?! That being said, I also LOVE when I get to share the silly behind-the-scenes moments from a session, like these gems with Angela.


Boudoir is giggles and beautiful hair and makeup, and sultry poses -- but it can also be SO MUCH FUN!!


Even though I promise we will have a BLAST during your session, I can also promise that we will have more than enough amazing, gorgeous shots that are in keeping with what you think of boudoir. I mean, just take a look at Angela and it's obvious - she's a stunner! 

(Ps. I especially love posting outtakes from my own headshot sessions, because who doesn’t like to laugh at themselves from time to time?)

Wendy/Rebel Belle || Boudoir Session || Kansas City, MO

What I find especially fun and magical about Wendy is the fact that she also uses her talent for dance when performing as her burlesque character "Rebel Belle". (You can check it out here, which is her Facebook page.)

Both sides of Wendy are saucy and sexy, but we got to dive into her softer side as well - as you can see, she is full of realness and joy!

If you happen to be lucky enough to live near Knoxville, you could see her perform! She will be rocking the Smoky Mountain Burlesque festival in September - more info can be found here.

(As a fun side note, Wendy's husband was the one who gave me my current favorite "Expecto Patronum" tat on my leg. Power couple alert! You can check his stuff out here.)

Wendy, thank you for a magical and empowering session - I can't wait to hear more great things about you and Rebel Belle!! Go get 'em girl!

Blonde, Beautiful, Joyful || Boudoir Session || Kansas City, MO Boudoir Photography

When you are used to being a cosplayer, it can be tricky to step in front of the camera as yourself. I'd say that she nailed it! I love that we were able to capture so much of the joy that filled this session.

This session was all about celebrating the client's gorgeousness without any costumes to detract from her own beauty. Oftentimes it seems as though boudoir has to be sexy or nothing; but why can't it also be joyous and filled with laughter and fun?! 

That being said, there is something so amazing to the sexy shots that we found together - look how amazing and confident she is!

I'd say what made this session so incredible was that we were able to shoot exactly who she is; joyful, beautiful, confident, and sexy. Let boudoir show who you are as a person - and let me show you how incredible you are!

Exploring KC: Strawberry Swing Indie Craft Fair, Kansas City, MO

Since we moved to KCMO just over a month ago, Donnie and I have been trying to soak up as much of the city as fast as we possibly can. Kansas City is such a vibrant place to be - with First Friday events, amazing restaurants, and the most creative and badass business owners and entrepreneurs I think I've ever met. What a cool place to be! 

Yesterday, Donnie, his sister Lauren, and I went to check out the Strawberry Swing Indie Craft Fair -- it was the 6th Annual Summer Swing, and despite the high of 101*, it was a wild success. I seriously don't think I've ever seen a fair with such a remarkable level of talent at EVERY SINGLE BOOTH. Crafts, artwork, and passionate vendors (somehow) smiling through the heat. It was seriously the best day! 

There was hardly enough time to check out every single vendor at the fair, but I did find some favorite shops to spend some extra time (and money) at. I'm pretty obsessed with all of our purchases, so I thought I'd give a shoutout to a few of the vendors who made me smile!

Kristin Smith Creative Studio

This is Kristin with Kristin Smith Creative Studio! She makes badass prints of all things Kansas City, awesome birds, and very sassy animals. I loved chatting with her about our mutual love of birds, especially Charlie Harper's rendition of a cardinal. (Have you seen it?? I'm obsessed!) But her own birds are pretty dang good too. I am loving following her on Instagram - she has the most bright, vibrant feed!

Hello Happiness Card Co

This is my new buddy Josh with Hello Happiness Card Co. If you're not following him on Instagram, I don't know what you've been doing with your life. Josh is hilarious, kind, and giving, and he (and his wife Jenny, who I haven't gotten to meet yet!) are rockstar photographers. I've actually been following Hello Happiness Card Co for about a year, long before we even though about moving to KC - so imagine my surprise (and awkward fangirl status) when we were introduced at our KC chapter of Tuesdays Together. I was like, "I FOLLOW YOU ON INSTAGRAM!" Ha. Keep it cool, Kinzie. :) Anyways, go give them a follow, and buy his cards because they are brilliant. (And sassy. Heh.)

Rakun Shop

Meghan is the #bosslady at Rakun Shop, and she had an awesome DIY flower crown and earring booth, among other things. You knowwwww I can't get enough of flower crowns, so it killed me that I wasn't able to go back and make my very own. But I'm sure we'll be in touch in the future, because we're going to collaborate on a flower crown boudoir shoot, and I am SO PUMPED about it! 

Sadly Harmless Art

This is Sally Harless of Sadly Harmless Art (GET IT??), and I found out after an appropriate amount of Etsy stalking that she actually lives in St. Louis which bums me out because I think she is awesome and I was planning on making her be my friend. But alas, I'll just have to admire her art from afar and commission a giant art print from her someday! The guy in the booth next to her (who I totally missed taking a photo of - I blame the heat!) and I totally nerded out for a while about the Golden Compass series, and I think we got Sally convinced that she needs to read the trilogy now too! But guys, go stalk her work because it is seriously my favorite thing I have ever seen. I mean LOOK at this ELEPHANT. Cat-with-heart-eyes emoji for dayyyyyssssss.

Wood + Wick Co.

Oh DANG y’all. One of my mom’s favorite things to tell me is about how I would make her stop while I smelled EVERY. SINGLE. CANDLE. in the store. Any store. Walgreens, gas stations, the grocery store. Forget about taking me to Yankee Candle. We would be there all day. But the thing is? I know my candles. I am extremely picky, and tend to only like scents that are … really good. They can’t be over the top, they definitely can’t smell like old lady perfume/potpourri, and if they say they’re going to smell like something, they better smell like that thing! Is that so much to ask?! 

Enter: Wood + Wick Co. They had an amazing range of scents, and I liked every single one of them. Even the two that had sweeter names, which made me think I wouldn’t like them. (I tend to prefer masculine and/or rugged scents, ya know, with notes of mahogany and cedar and camp fire and whiskey!) But one of my very favorites was the Pear and Fig! Probably because it actually smelled like ... fresh pear and figs. Totally wild, and brilliantly done! We had an awesome conversation, and snagged a Pear and Fig candle, and a Soft Flannel (which is already burning in our bathroom, as I type!), and lots of ideas for client gifts. Thanks, ladies!


Travis is the face behind this awesome company Roundhouse. He sells household products that are sustainably made, and locally sourced. I’m pretty obsessed with the ice cream scoop he sells, and Donnie and I were tempted by it until we remembered that we almost always eat ice cream straight out of the carton with a spoon. :-p But it’s so dang pretty!! I met Travis originally because of an interesting composting project he has up his sleeve, and I can’t wait to see where he goes with that. Oh, and fun fact? My brilliant sister-in-law designed his logo! I love her style!

Buffalo Roam KS

I absolutely adored Allison of Buffalo Roam KS. She’s as delightful as she looks in this photo, and I loved chatting with her and about all things embroidery. I have big plans to work on a series of embroidered birds on dish towels that my great-grandmother made many, many years ago (we have found three of the set of seven, so they are begging to be completed!). Her eyes lit up while we were talking about this - you can tell this woman loves what she does! 

Steph Hathaway Designs

Steph and I didn’t get the chance to talk for very long (we spotted her amazing alphabet flash cards from afar and snagged the set on the way out, because, I mean… how could we not??!) but I am obsessed with all of her work at Steph Hathaway Designs. Also, she makes art prints of wedges of cheese, so clearly we should be BFFs. I can’t wait to hang our new gorgeous alphabet series in our kitchen!! 

KwanaLee Art

We bought a very special gift for a very special person from KwanaLee Art, but obviously I can’t say much more about that, now, can I? HOWEVER, I can definitely take a moment to shout about this excellent print of Neville Longbottom. Oh dang, it’s so good. She also has an amazing Hermione print that I am obsessed with, which is impressive because I feel like most people make her look like she’s got a stick up her butt. Instead, Kendra shows her off to be a smarty pants firecracker full of strength, which I totally dig! (Duh.) Oh, and she actually has a ton more outside of Harry Potter themed art (including Dr. Who, Grand Budapest Hotel, and Fantastic Mr. Fox!) but we all know where my brain goes when anything HP is around... Ha! Kendra, it was so nice meeting you today! I love your work so much - and I’m glad we connected! (Especially since you seem to take your Harry Potter really seriously...)

Madre Beads

Well, first of all, y’all know I love a good necklace. Lacy with Madre Beads makes the most darling statement pieces that are made of teething beads and t-shirt yarn (soooo stretchy and soft!!), and you can even add delicious-smelling essential oils to the beads and they’ll carry the scent all day. Sign me up. When I deal with bouts of anxiety, I lean pretty heavily on my stress oils, so I could see this being an awesome way to keep them close when I need them. And also, regarding the teething -- my nephew Oscar always tries to chew on my necklaces, but they aren’t designed for that, so they mostly just get slobbery and probably don’t taste very good. This is a way better option!! Lacy, I loved meeting you, and I can’t wait to rock my necklace, and smell delightful at the same time!


What a brilliant day, and an amazing fair. Strawberry Swing, you killed it! Seriously, this was bigger and better than I could have ever dreamed of. I am so glad we prioritized this lovely exploration of our new, sweet Kansas City. Thanks for being awesome, KCMO!


Lovely makers, please reach out if you'd like a high-resolution copy of the photo I posted -- I'd be more than happy to support your businesses. Just shoot me an email at kinzie@kinzieferguson.com and I'll send it your way!! 

Frankie || Boudoir Portrait || Kansas City, MO Boudoir Photography

"The canvas is hanging on the wall opposite my bed, and is the first thing I see in the morning. It fills me with joy like I can't describe. It is THE THING that completes the sacred space of my bedroom.” - Frankie, on her prints from the session

Frankie booked a session with me to celebrate her 30th birthday - what an amazing idea, by the way! I love that she wanted to enter the next stage of her life by taking such a bold step to celebrate her own power and joy. 

I LOVE the images that we were able to capture - and what they meant for Frankie!

I am OBSESSED with the images from her bubble bath that we captured! Frankie was the inspiration to spice up my standard bathtub game with a substitution of bubbles for the standard milkbath.

In case anyone was wondering, after various tests, we discovered the best bubbles out there: Transformer's orange-scented children shampoo and conditioner from Save-A-Lot!

An incredible ending to an incredible session - thank you, Frankie!

Jessica || Boudoir Portrait || Kansas City, MO Boudoir Photography

I knew as soon as Jessica came into the studio that we would be in for an amazing session! 

What I love most about my session with Jessica is the joy you can see written across her face in every shot! From silly, to sensual, she was so full of loveliness, you can't help but smile back!

Jessica, thank you for an amazing session! 

No makeup, Natural Beauty Boudoir Sessions || Kansas City, MO Boudoir Photography

Celeste responded to my call for women who were willing to be photographed without any makeup on. I know this can be tricky for women who are used to wearing makeup on a daily basis, or even for women who don't usually wear makeup, but who would prefer professional hair and makeup to become "photo-ready." (I get it, because I generally want to wear some makeup when I'm being photographed too!)

But what I love about these sessions is that there's nothing to hide behind. Instead of focusing on the blush on your cheeks, or the rosy lipstick on your lips, I get to focus on the authentic giggles, the moments of pure joy. I get to know the raw energy of a person, and then let that show in the photographs that we make together.

If you'd like to book a no-makeup boudoir mini-session (these sessions take about 30 minutes start to finish!), let me know ASAP so we can squeeze you in!

Celeste is so beautiful, with and without makeup. The moment when she jumped on the bed brought out such extreme joy that I just about couldn't handle myself. I think I squeaked or yelled or shouted something, in fact, while she was jumping. I am not great at keeping my cool when I'm excited, but oh well! This is what boudoir is about.

Celeste, thank you for trusting me to make these photos of you, especially when you were out of your comfort zone, and not sure about being photographed without makeup. I love what we found together, and I can't wait to photograph you again soon!