I feel like I say this every time, but I loved this conversation! Once again, we (Rachael, she/her, and Kinzie, they/she) welcomed Audy Avery (they/them) to the mic, and we had an incredible, exploratory chat.
Audy and I (Kinzie) talked about Polyamory and Relationship Anarchy (and how we both started out identifying as polyamorous, but more and more often, Relationship Anarchy rings more true these days). We break down both concepts for you!
We also got into the heart of what makes these relationship structures so meaningful: the focus on intentionality, open communication, and mutual care. Audy shared their journey of moving beyond traditional relationship expectations and discovering the beauty of decentering romance to prioritize friendships, chosen family, and community.
One of the highlights? Hearing Audy’s perspective on how relationship anarchy isn’t just about personal relationships—it’s about rethinking the way we build and nourish our community. Kinzie and Audy shared practical ideas like resource-sharing, “Kid Swap Weekends,” and finding ways to meet each other’s needs without losing sight of boundaries and capacity.
We also dove into a game-changing practice our pal introduced to our community: Prepared For No (PFN). It’s a simple but powerful way to make requests while honoring everyone’s limits and building trust within a community.
Audy (left), Kinzie (right), and their dear Donnie (center) - chosen family! 🥰
Whether you’re new to these ideas of polyamory, relationship anarchy, and intentional community building, or you’ve been exploring them for a while -- this conversation has something for you. It’s all about creating connection, care, and support in ways that feel authentic and expansive. What happens when you dream bigger than the boxes we were handed?
We’d love to hear your thoughts—what resonates with you from this episode? Do you have any follow up questions? Let us know!
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