Hello you incredible human beings,
Okay, so how the heck do you take a sexy selfie? You're in luck. Here I am, comin' atchya with my very best.... *drum roll please!*
Sexy Selfie Tips!!
Get in the mood:
Take a moment to yourself. Breathe deeply. Give yourself three compliments. Fix your hair, or put on a favorite outfit -- do something to make yourself feel amazing.
Listen to the Flow Pose body meditation at the top of this post to get connected with, and grounded in, your body.
Play some music that makes you feel amazing, and move your body around to the beat.
Clothing:
Wear as much or as little clothing as you want for this photo, but do make sure you feel great in whatever you're wearing. Add or subtract clothing to find what you feel best in!
Don't be afraid to tug/lift/tuck/otherwise modify your clothing to create the shape and silhouette that you're after. I've taken some great sexy selfies when I was wearing a simple t-shirt - just by tugging at the neckline/lifting the hem a bit!
Posing:
Include or try to feature one of your favorite body parts/something you love about yourself - if it's something you love about yourself, you will feel more confident as you're taking the picture
Move that phone around again, and shoot from a lot of different angles
Use a mirror if you want to! That's a great way to get more of your body in the photo
Arch and twist and bend and wiggle to find your pose - you never know what combination body parts and angles you'll enjoy in a final photo
Expression: Let's talk "sexy face": First of all, what the heck is that??! The face you have is sexy, always! BUT if you want to work towards a more typically recognized sexy face (or if you're just wanting to bust out a different face than usual for this selfie), here are a few tips you can try:
Whisper A-E-I-O-U in slow motion and watch your mouth as you do it. Sometimes one vowel or another will be the one that does the trick for you, and for other people, it's the shape your mouth makes as you transition from one letter to another. Try smiling a bit as you say it, and see if that changes things
Breathe through your mouth, or breathe in, hold your breath for a second, and then blow out through soft lips
Put your lips together as you're working out the pose, and once you're ready to start shooting, lightly part your lips and relax your tongue
Look down or close your eyes, and right before you start taking the pictures, flutter open your eyes slowly and look directly into the camera
Hold your mouth open lightly and breathe through your mouth, and then don't actively smile with your mouth, but think very very VERY smiley thoughts with your eyes
That last tip personally makes me look a little constipated 😂, but it works for some people! What works for one person will be totally different than what will work for another person.
That's why I have so many different tricks up my sleeve to get you to do different faces! All the more reason to practice all of these things in front of a mirror, or better yet, in front of your photo-ready phone, so you can snap a bunch of photos and review later.
SUPER IMPORTANT: Don't be afraid to laugh at yourself! Taking sexy selfies can be a ridiculous experience, and you are doing an awesome thing by trying! If a regular selfie is already a specific kind of art form, a sexy selfie can be even more elusive! That doesn't mean it's impossible, though - it just means it'll take even more practice to find your groove. That's not to say you can't find an awesome pose/angle early on, but the more you do it, the more easily the sexy selfies will come to you!
Alright, my friends! Don't forget to be kind to yourselves as you are taking and posting these selfies. That is a gift we all deserve to give to ourselves.